I found this great little article on dos and don’ts for the wedding season! A hilarious must read girls.
I’ve reached the age where every summer weekend seems to be dedicated to a wedding-related function. In the beginning, I wasn’t sure which occasions required gifts, smarter dress or coordination with other guests, but after attending many—many—nuptials and witnessing all kinds of scenarios (from impressive to unfortunate), I’ve finally finessed my modus operandi as an invitee. Here are a few of the “dos” and “don’ts” I’ve learned along the way—to help all you novices out there.
RSVP ASAP. If you can imagine for even a moment how stressful it is to plan a wedding, then take that moment to respond to the invitation as promptly as possible.
Ask for a “plus one.” I promise you, the invitation will specify whether or not you can bring a date. If you don’t get to bring a date, it was not an oversight!
Stick to the dress code. There’s a fine line between looking your best and upstaging the bride, and it’s a line I never want to cross. If I’m unsure, I check with someone in the wedding party to find out the dress code for the different functions.
Wear white—or any shades of white (cream, beige, ivory).
Chat up the stranger at your table. Weddings can be uncomfortable when you don’t know many of the other guests, but they’re especially awkward if you don’t even try to socialize. I start by asking how they know the bride or groom, and the conversation usually flows from there.
Complain. I don’t care if the weather is bad, if my shoes are uncomfortable or if the wedding reception is dull. Keep conversation positive!
Compliment and thank the hosts. Whether it’s the bride’s parents or friends of the couple, I’ll make a point to thank them on my way out for a lovely party and send a brief email/note as follow-up.
TO GIFT OR NOT TO GIFT
Not every function calls for a gift, so here’s a quick cheat sheet that ensures you never show up empty handed (unless, that is, you’re supposed to).
Engagement party: Usually not. Unless the host provides registry information or I have something specific in mind, I typically don’t bring a gift.
Bridal shower: Yes! Depending on how close I am to the bride, I personalize the gift.
Bachelorette Party: Never. Just be sure to chip in for the drinks.
Wedding: Yes! I’ll select something from the registry and have it shipped to the specified location prior to the wedding, regardless of whether or not I attend.